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This week, I was sitting in coffee shop and overheard some kids talking. (By “kids”, I mean young adults that were old enough to sit in a coffee shop without supervision but PROBABLY not old enough to drink.) So Kid 1 says something about the Nirvana song “Smells Like Teen Spirit” and Kid 2 says she’s never heard of said song (fair enough, not shocked at this point). Kid 1 then goes on to say “Oh, it’s by this band called Nirvana. It’s classic rock.” And this is when the shock factor set in — Classic rock! Classic. Rock. Is Nirvana classic rock??
To me, classic rock is a genre of music from the 70’s MAYBE the early 80’s. It is most certainly NOT the early 90’s. Anything that was released subsequent to my birth can certainly not be referred to as “classic” in any way. Right?
ThriveSister agreed with my sentiment straight away, I calmed down and turned “Smells Like Teen Spirit” on as soon as I got into my car. I loved all 4 minutes and 30 something seconds of it. It got me thinking of music from my past and I went on a trip down memory lane.
Isn’t it music great that way?
No pictures necessary; just a couple of cords from a familiar song and you’re transported to a completely different time in your life. Some case and point from my life:
Any 2pac song: ThriveSister and I road to elementary and middle school every morning for what had to be a year listening to 2pac’s Greatest Hits album (1998) — tracks like “Brenda’s Got a Baby”, “Hail Mary” and “Dear Mama”. (Yes, this is as weird as it sounds.) My parents let us buy the Walmart censored version of the CD and we would listen to it adored in our Catholic school jumpers and cramped into the little red Toyota truck that my Dad had at the time. I got to sit by the window because I was older and ThriveSister sat squished between the clutch and me. The three of us chuckle about this from time to time and it reminds me of the people I knew, the things I was learning and the growing up that I was doing.
There are albums that take me back to high school when I first started to drive. I would burn a mixed CD (18 songs downloaded in questionable manners) and listen to the CD hundreds of times until it scratched or got lost or I finally downloaded another 18 songs (not an easy feat because it took 45 minutes to download a song). Songs from my wedding can make me smile or make me cry depending on the way the pregnancy hormones swing that day.
There are a whole host of other long forgotten artist and songs that can take me back to a precise time and place in my life. Some make me laugh (often because some of the music I thought was Grammy worthy was REALLY bad, like REALLY bad); Some make me cry; Some just make me tune out the world and be for a few minutes.
OK so where am I going with this?
I realized, listening to “Smells Like Teen Spirit” that, for me, music can provide an easy and quick mental reset. It’s the easiest form of self care I have. It doesn’t require a babysitter. It’s not expensive. I don’t have to implement a new habit and it doesn’t require me to carve out any time from my day. My self care tip? Create an easy to access playlist with songs that help you reset like this. Press the shuffle button now and again and enjoy yourself.
Happiness in a 30 second video clip:
I hopped on the Becoming (Michelle Obama’s memoir) bandwagon this week and started the audio book. Since starting it, I’ve spent more or less every available minute “reading” it and so far so good. I’m not finished yet but I’ve found Becoming to be extremely well written and relatable from the viewpoint of a fellow working mother. Regardless of your political standing, it’s hard to argue Michelle Obama’s influence on American culture over the last decade especially as an advocate for women and girls. I’ve always found her to be intelligent, down to earth and aspirational as both a mother and a working woman.
This book is a candid look into Mrs. Obama’s childhood on the South Side of Chicago, her years as a working mother (trying to balance the SAME stuff we normal moms do) and, of course, her years living at 1600 Pennsylvania avenue.
Like I said, I haven’t finished the book yet but so far I’m putting it in the “must read” category.
Can’t even remember how I stumbled upon Brightbox but I’m so happy that I did. Brightbox is a super super easy and affordable way to brighten someone’s day. There are three price points: $5, $10 and $15 (shipping included!). You pick your envelope or box depending on your price point, fill out a little note to the recipient and Brightbox does the rest.
Take the $10 price point for example:
There are 20+ goodies to choose from including a Sweet Tooth Box, Sugar Lip Scrub, Facial Steam and a Mystery Box! There are some choices for the men in your life too!
I found this and just thought “gosh, what a simple way to spread a little bit of joy”; it sort of reminded me that I have a huge village of people that lift me up and fill my cup VERY regularly.
If you sign up to get their newsletter your first Brightbox is 10% off!
For new mommas:
ThriveMomma had an awesome guest blog from Erin McInerney this week about The Fourth Trimester, that 90 day period after we give birth that we don’t spend nearly enough time focused on:
The fourth trimester is said to be the period of 90 days after you give birth. This is a transitional time for both mom and baby; baby is getting used to life outside it’s protected womb and mom is adjusting to a whole new life with a new baby. It should be a time for healing, rest and concentration on you and your baby. It is encouraged to stay home, bond with your baby and bring new mom’s back to health.
No matter how smooth or easy your pregnancy and labor and delivery were, you still spent almost 10 months growing a human then pushing one out; it is traumatic on your body even if you don’t feel it. It is so crucial to be taking proper care of yourself during this period. The following are some tips and practices for mom to do during the fourth trimester to help the body restore itself to its fullest potential.
For shopping smart:
Check out my recommendations for Black Friday/Small Business Saturday/Cyber Monday deals that you don’t want to miss. These deals are geared to new moms, old moms and non-moms alike!
This is a recipe I’ve stolen from Erin M. and it is delicious!
If you haven’t tried golden milk or a turmeric latte you. are. missing. OUT! This beverage isn’t just warm + comforting; it is so powerful for your body, with over 150 natural medicinal effects including: detoxifying liver, anti-inflammatory, antiseptic, pain killing, strengthens the immune system, regulates blood pressure + a major cancer fighter to name a few. It is so easy to whip up too! Combine the following ingredients:
- 2.5 tablespoons of turmeric (this one is my favorite)
- A pinch of black pepper (needed to activate the turmeric for absorption)
- A spoonful of coconut oil (all fat source for absorption)
- Sweetener of your choice
- Nut milk of your choice (the Silk brand is great but also see homemade recipe here)
- Boiling water
Stir these up together in your favorite mug and sip on some for your mind, body + soul.
Here’s some other buzz that caught my attention this week:
Working Moms: I See You – I’ve been thinking a lot about the ups and downs of parenthood when it comes to being a working mom and a stay-at-home mom — Both difficult, both rewarding, and both impossible to describe to someone who hasn’t been there.
This Spa Offers Childcare and Naps Because Dreams DO Come True – Can we start a petition to get this to San Diego please?
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